After church I went to my sister-n-luvs house and her mother did the “huevo” on me…for those of you who don’t know what the “huevo” is….it’s a Mexican ritual or tradition or belief.  Basically, and I know this is in more cultures than Mexican, but the belief is that someone gives you “ojo” if they envy you or are jealous of you or wish bad on you….the “huevo” takes it away or can cure you.  What they do is run the “huevo” over your body and say a prayer and when they open the egg it shows either clear or can show density or other things….well, mine had HORNS!! Yes, I said HORNS!! The next day, my sis-n-luvs sister who is a “Curandera” (curer) in Mexico saw the egg and freaked out!! She requested that I show up immediately and they do a cure on me.  Basically, she said that lots of people are envious of me or wish bad on me or act like my friend and then talk about me behind my back.  The thought of that alone just saddens me….I try my best to be the best to everyone I know.  I give without question or alterior motive…I love unconditionally.  Anywhoooo….I had her cleanse me for 3 days….it was a ritual that included eggs, limes, holy water, lots of prayers, burning in a circle, sugar, cinnamon, yeah I said burning in a circle, cleaning of my apartment and my moms house, taking a bath in a bucket w/ razors to cut the negativity for 9 days…all kinds of blessings over and over and today is my last day of the rituals….am I cured? I don’t know…I received 3 job offers, I only have to pay $600 of the $1800 for the laptop, I’ve gotten closer to my “good” friends and have met new friends, my website is going to be launched…good things are in the happening.

I believe it all has alot to do with the “laws of attraction” and focusing on positive things rather than the negative and I know that in the end good things will come to me because that’s what I attract.  I will triumph!!

Cricket: A cricket is someone who ignores you, when you text/call them they don’t return your call.  As in the movies, when there is silence you hear “crickets”

Grasshopper: Someone who wants to spend time w/ you during the day and is fun to be around. (Not to be confused w/ the cricket)

Diff. between a cricket and a grasshopper: Note the time of day you hear the bug. If you hear an insect singing at night, chances are it is a cricket. Since crickets are nocturnal, they use their songs to communicate and mate at night. Grasshoppers do most of their calling during the day, but since they have daylight on their side, they also rely on their keen sight to check out other grasshoppers.

Mosquitos: A person that sucks the life out of you. 

Fly: Someone that annoys you and never goes away.

Catepillar: Someone that is boring and lazy, no fun… never gets out to do anything…really boring! Never has ambition to get up and do anything…

Butterfly: Someone who flutters through your life and brings beauty and happiness.  They go as they please and please as they go…but hold them too loosely and they’ll fly away, too tightly and they’ll die.

Cut your losses and don’t waste your time .

Why stay in some weird dating limbo when you can move on to what will surely be better territory? Don’t want to hear it? Fine. Here’s the answer you’re looking for, “Hang in there, baby. He’s not the loser everybody’s telling you he is. If you wait and keep your mouth shut and call at exactly the right time and anticipate his moods and have no expectations about communication or your own sexual needs, you can have him!” But please don’t be surprised if he dumps you or continues to drag you through a completely unsatisfying relationship.

He is a man made up entirely of your excuses. And the minute you stop making excuses for him, he will completely disappear from your life.

Men, for the most part, like to pursue women. We (men) like not knowing if we can catch you. We feel rewarded when we do.

 Don’t let the “honeys” and the “babys” fool you. His sweet nothings are exactly that. They are much easier to say than “I’m just not that into you.” Remember, actions speak louder than, “There’s no cell reception where I am right now.”

Calling when you say you’re going to call is the very first brick in the house you are building of love and trust. If he can’t lay this one stupid brick down, you ain’t never gonna have a house, baby. And it’s cold outside.

He will always be able to play the “friend” card on you. He only has to be responsible for the expectations of a friend, rather than the the far greater expectations of a boyfriend. He’s got the ultimate situation: a great friend with all the benefits of a girlfriend, whom he can see or not see whenever he wants to. He may be one of your closest friends, but I’m sorry to say … as a boyfriend, he’s just not that into you.

Beware of the word “friend”. It can often be used by men or the women that love them to excuse the most unfriendly behavior. Personally, when I’m picking friends, I like the ones who don’t make me cry myself to sleep.

I don’t want to be “sort of dating” someone. I don’t want to be “kinda hanging out” with someone. I don’t want to spend a lot of energy suppressing my feelings so I appear uninvolved. I want to be involved. I want to be sleeping with someone I know I’ll see again because they’ve already demonstarted to me that they’re trustworthy and honorable — and into me.

You can’t blame a guy for having feelings. You love someone, you break up, you still have feeling. Thank God for that really. But having feelings don’t mean you have to have sex.

 Every man you have ever dated who has said he doesn’t want to get married or doesn’t believe in marriage, or has “issues” with marriage, will … rest assured … someday be married. It just will never be with you.

Everyone wants to be loved and needed, particularly by the person who just broke up with us. I understand. What could be better than hearing from the man who just told you he didn’t want you in his life anymore … his sad, wistful, “I miss you so much” voice on the other end of the phone? It’s validating. It’s exciting. It’s irresistible. But resist you must.

My friends all say I should stop talking to him, but I think he misses me, and I like that. I miss him. I feel if I stay in touch with him, it will remind him of how great I am, and eventually he will realize that we should be together again.

A man who wants to make a relationship work will move mountains to keep the woman he loves. If he’s not calling you to tell you he loves you and wants you back, it should only be because he’s showing up at your new residence to do it in person … if he’s not doing any of that, he may love you, he may miss you, but ultimately he’s just not that into you. Stop taking his calls and let him know what it’s like to live without you.

Don’t be flattered that he misses you. He should miss you. You’re deeply missable. However, he’s still the same person who just broke up with you. Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he’s choosing, every day, not to be with you.

I was seeing a guy for about a month. He broke up with me, saying that he didn’t feel like it could be something serious. I understood and took it well. He wanted to know if we could still hang out as friends. I said sure. Now we get together and go out and then come back to his place and have sex, just like we did before. (But now, we’re “broken up.”) He’s really, really cute and I love having sex with him. I also think he must like me if he can’t stop being around me. And I think it’s kinda cool — all pressure’s off and we’re having a great time together. I’ve decided that I think it’s fine and I’m not going to call his attention for the fact that we’re actually dating. Except for the fact that we broke up.

This guy is brilliant. He goes out with you, dates you, breaks up with you, then continues to sleep with you, which basically absolves him of all responsibility toward your feelings. After all, you’re not going out anymore. It’s genius! It’s diabolical! He should be writing a book! In fact, I bet this guy could get his own little cult going if he wanted to. And let me guess, you’d be happy to sign up for that as well. For the record, this guy doesn’t “like you so much that he can’t stop being around you.” Because here’s what guys don’t do if they can’t live without you: they don’t break up with you. This guy is seriously not into you, it’s crazy. The only way you’re going to figure out how into you you are … is how fast you get rid of him.

It’s very tempting when you really want to be with someone to settle for much, much less — even a vague pathetic facsimile of less — than you would have ever imagined. Remember always what you set out to get and please don’t settle for less. These guys exist because there are a lot of women out there who allow them to.

Hey girl. Put down the penis, put your clothes back on, and go directly to your best friend’s house. Do not find an excuse to stay. Do not think that because of all the crazy hotness of it all, it now means that you’re meant to be together. Yes, break up sex does seem like a good idea, because hey, it’s nice to have sex with someone you have these dramatic feelings about. It makes it all, well, dramatic. But now you know. It confuses everything and makes you separate sex and emotions. So now you don’t ever have to make that mistake again. Got it? He’s into the very-bad-idea-that-masquerades-as-a-good-idea, breakup sex. Over and out.

Don’t underestimate the power of sex, even with someone you’ve been doing it with for a very long time. Especially with someone you’ve been doing it with for a very long time. Breaking up means not seeing them again, which also implies not seeing them naked again. It might be tempting to forget this pearl of wisdom, but just remember, it’s still called breakup sex. No one has yet to rename it oh-my-god-the-sex-was-so-good-we-got-back-together-again-and-lived-happily-ever-after sex.

He’s sniffing for something better, and when he doesn’t find it, he gets lonely and comes “home.” It’s not that he’s so into you. It’s that he’s so not into being alone. Don’t give him the chance to break up with you for the fourth time. (Even the idea of it sounds beneath you, doesn’t it?) Reset your breakup maximum to one and move on.

Deciding to get back together with someone is a complicated and difficult decision. Just remember that the person you are getting back together with is the same person who, not long before, looked you in your beautiful face, took full stock of you and all your qualities, and told you that he was no longer in need of your company.

Don’t confuse being classy with being a doormat. Classy is walking away with your head held high, graciously, and with all dignity. Being a doormat is offering to drive him to the dentist for his root canal.

Breakups, I’ve heard, are supposed to be just that. Breaks. Hard, clean breaks. No talking, no seeing, no touching … keep your hands to yourself. The relationship is over. Half the people I know move after a huge breakup, and frankly that makes perfect sense to me. You’re not supposed to sleep with the guy who just broke your heart a week ago. Fine. Next time I’m in this situation I’ll cry. Stay in bed and wail. Go to the gym if I can. Call all my friends and burden them with my misery. Sleep too much. Cry some more. See my therapist more often. Get a puppy. Do whatever I have to so eventually I can move on.

 Breakup sex still means you’re broken up.

Cut him off. Let him miss you.

He doesn’t need to be reminded that you’re great.

There’s a guy out there who’s going to be really happy that you didn’t get back together with your crappy ex-boyfriend.

The reason it’s so painful when someone disappears is you have to face the fact that the person you loved had probably left you a long time before he grabbed his coat and scrammed. The part part is realizing that he was lying to you, in some way, before the moment of vanishing.

Don’t give him the chance to reject you again.

No matter how powerful and real your feelings may be for someone, if that person cannot fully and honestly return them and therefore actively love you back, these feelings mean nothing.

Being lonely … being alone … for many people … sucks. I get it, I get it, I get it. But still I have to say that yes, my belief is that being with somebody who makes you feel shitty or doesn’t honor the person you are is worse.

Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with. You deserve to be with someone who is nice to you all the time